Hey, it’s Selene here from selene.cam! I’ve been camming pretty regularly and dipping into findom again recently, and honestly when I first started out, one of the first things that surprised me was how many scams are out there. I was just excited to connect with people and make some extra money, but I quickly realized not everyone is who they say they are. I wanted to write this because I wish I’d had something simple to reference when I was first getting started.
Scammers usually try to build a little trust first. They’ll message like they’re a nice guy who wants to spoil you, talk about big tributes or gifts, and then suddenly there’s some “problem” with the payment. I’ve seen fake screenshots of sends that never actually happened, or they’ll ask for a quick private show and then try to reverse the charge later depending on where/how you take payment. It’s frustrating because you end up wasting time or even losing out on money you thought was already yours. During lives it can feel extra sneaky too — someone acts super into it, promises they’re sending, and then disappears once you get off stream for them.
I’ve learned it’s better to slow down and double-check everything before I give any attention or content. The platforms that respect kink and protect creators have saved me a lot of stress. I stick to the ones I know are safer instead of jumping around.
A Few Red Flags I Watch For Now
There are a couple of things that make me pause right away:
- If the site feels really vanilla or doesn’t seem to understand camming and findom at all, I usually skip it.
- Anyone who wants me to pay a “fee” or send something first before they tribute — that’s an instant no. Real spenders don’t do that.
- Those polished screenshots or long stories that don’t quite add up? I always check the payment myself now before I do anything.
I used to feel bad for questioning people, but it’s honestly saved me so much time and energy.
Little Things I Do to Keep Myself Protected
Here’s what’s been working for me lately:
I set a small initial tribute right at the start of any new chat. It’s nothing crazy, but it helps me know who’s serious. No tribute, no real conversation. It keeps things simple and cuts out the guys who just want to talk forever.
I also stopped doing custom videos for random people who ask. One standard way to verify is enough; I don’t send verification videos anymore. It just feels safer.
And if someone offers to “mentor” me or hook me up with promo for an upfront payment, I walk away. I’ve seen too many of those turn out to be nothing. I’d rather figure things out slowly on my own than risk it.
My Simple Safety Checklist
I actually wrote this down for myself and thought I’d share it in case it helps anyone else:
- Check the person’s profile details for anything that feels off.
- Only use the payment options I know are pretty safe for camming and findom.
- Strong passwords and two-factor on everything and I never log in on random wifi anymore.
- Maintain clear rules for myself about what I share
- Keep a quick note of every chat or session just in case something weird comes up later.
It’s not foolproof, but it makes me feel a lot more in control.
I’m still learning every day on selene.cam, but these little habits have helped me focus on the fun parts instead of worrying. If you’re camming too and you’ve run into anything sketchy, feel free to drop it in the comments — I read them all. And if you want to hang out or support, you know where to find me!
Take care,
Selene